Think Like a Lady, Act Like a Man

I have a lot of things that I have not done in my short 20 years of life so far on this planet. I have not ever gone sky diving. I have not been to all 50 states. I have not won the lottery. In short, I have done too little already. But anyway, that’s not the point.

But really… the only things that matter in this instance are that I have NOT seen any of Steve Harvey’s comedy routines, nor have I figured out the male species. (At least, these are the most important while I’m writing this.)

Steve Harvey recently wrote a book which has been on display in my place of work (a very non-busy clothing store), where I have had my eye on it for quite some time. “Think Like a Lady, Act like a Man” is a title that just makes you go… “Huh??” I just had to know what this book was about. And guess what? Its for all of those women who have absolutely no clue about men. Ding Ding Ding: this book is totally for me. So far, the book has been very helpful and thought provoking.
There are two points that Harvey makes during the first half of the book that, quite frankly, are absolutely obvious. They are obvious to women around the world every single day, including myself. However, I know for a fact that we just DON’T stop to think about it.
       1. Men get their identity from how they define themselves.
       2. Men love differently than women.
Again… Duh. We know this. But then, no we don’t. I have never thought about how men think, other than the fact that it’s very simple. No muss, no fuss kind of thinking. They don’t do gossip, big plans, or ridiculous things… they are just simple guys. So why would how they love or define themselves be any different? Simple is the key word here.

Men define themselves in a very different way than women. It is all about three main things.
     1. His job title (Who He Is)
     2. How he gets his title (What He Does)
     3. How much he makes (What He Is Rewarded For What He Does)
Unless they have their balance in these three things, there is no room for a woman in a man’s life. They won’t be happy with themselves, and because of this they won’t be ready for a relationship. Looking back on all of my relationships and their failures, I see a lot of them that have ended due to the fact that there wasn’t a balance in my men’s lives with these three things. I’m starting to see a connection.


Next, how men love. Simply, if a man truly loves you, he will PROFESS, PROVIDE AND PROTECT. And I know that most of you are saying “Excuse me, but what exactly does that mean?” Let me tell you.
      Professing: If a man loves you, he will tell others that he loves you. He will introduce you as his girlfriend and bring you around his friends/family. It may sound like a little thing to us girls, but to a guy claiming you as his is a big step.


      Providing: It is engrained into a man’s brain from the time that he is a child that it is his job to take care of the women in his life, be it mother/sister/relative. If a man truly loves you, he will do everything within his power to make sure that you have everything that you want. Make sure that you are provided for.


      Protecting: This one is short and simple… A man who loves you will try to protect you in any way, shape and form. He will stand between you and any danger, always.

Women love passionately and unconditionally, through thick and thin. When a woman loves a man, you can SEE it, and when men don’t return the feelings in the same way we always get upset. All women, me included, want to SEE their feelings being reciprocated. However we don’t realize that this (all that is mentioned above) is all men feel that they are required to do, not because they are lazy or don’t really care about us… but because it’s a lot of work professing, providing and protecting us. And they feel by doing all of these things, it should be more than enough to please us. (Steve Harvey explains this much more thoroughly than I do.
Even halfway through the book, I am learning a lot about men. And wishing that I read this book two years ago. Its already a keeper. Stay tuned!