Kiss and Run: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Her Fear of Commitment Cont'd

So after finishing this book, I have found that I am a “Serial Dater” and “Free Spirit” all wrapped up in one package. A Serial Dater is someone who juggles multiple partners and/or jumps from one short-lived (a week to three months) relationship to the next.” A Free Spirit, in this book are said to be easily bored, needing lots of friends, activities and diversions to satisfy their wanderlust. A Free Spirit is someone who hates the thought of someone impeding in their independent life and taking away things that they love.

All of what I read in the book was pretty helpful in determining what I was doing and why I was doing it. It was really crazy. It all sort of morphed around me that I had the problem, I was the problem here. I picked the wrong men, I sought the wrong things, and most of all I didn’t know that I was even doing it.

A quote from this book really got me thinking:
      “For some reason, the media get off on making you study your man like a lab rat in a cage. They usually fill your head with tips on how to use that knowledge to ‘get’ him to commit to you.
      “I really believe that all of us would be much better off if women would just stop trying so hard to figure men out. If you’re constantly worrying about what your man wants, thinks, and is doing, how much time does that leave for you? That’s right. The one thing these tomes of wisdom don’t talk about it you. There are no quizzes for find out if you’re really into him, no advice on how to tell if you’re ready for a commitment, or anything remotely helpful about finding out how you are.”

I think it is simply brilliant, to say the least.

Many of my friends, when told about this book, rolled their eyes. One friend goes, “Well, Duh! Everyone has a commitment phobia. Who wants to be with someone forever? Why do you think marriage rates are so fucked up?” That’s an interesting thought…

I pondered on what he said for a bit, and I can’t help but agree with him. Marriages are starting to begin later and later in life, and end shorter and shorter. People are treating marriage like dating, and trying to make it not be so permanent. What is happening to the world? Is it becoming a world where marriage and monogamy are going out of style? We shall see.

But I definitely recommend this book to any woman who has any doubts about her relationships and love life. If you are "Single, Picky, and/or Indecisive"… or even just think you might be having a “love slump”… this is definitely a book for you.