I chose this book not for the fact that I feared commitment… but just because it looked interesting, and I know a lot of people are interested in reading about relationships! I am only halfway through this book, but I felt compelled to go ahead and write about it. It is already making such an impact!!
I, my friends, am admittedly a serial dater. I haven’t ever really dated anyone very seriously and I have actually only had one relationship in my life last longer than 3 months. My friends will tell you that with the men I date, I am an absolute flake. I cancel dates, change my mind often, and get bored with them faster than it would take a normal person to drive a car around the block. My dating elasticity only goes so far, and then springs back almost instantaneously.
I have always blamed this on being far too busy, getting bored, not finding what I want, or that they guy is just definitely NOT my type. So the words “Single, Picky, and Indecisive” in the title really got me going. You have to understand, I really am this way in the majority of things in my life. It takes a lot to hold my attention for longer than 5 minutes with anything that I do. Unless it’s something I am really passionate about and really love being a part of. Single, picky and indecisive are words that have been used to describe me on more than one occasion.
However, this book (even halfway in) has given me a bit of insight. I have given credit to my on-again off-again dating to my not having found the right person, but now I am beginning to see things more clearly. I have taken a stint off of dating (sworn it off) for the past six months, trying to figure things out… and now I see why I was doing this.
I AM A COMMITMENT PHOBE.
Yes, I said it… and I honestly believe it now. It’s an odd feeling to see that the problem might actually have something to do with me… me and my problem. They often say that admitting you have a problem is the first step, so I’m making progress.
More to come when I finish reading! Stay tuned.
I, my friends, am admittedly a serial dater. I haven’t ever really dated anyone very seriously and I have actually only had one relationship in my life last longer than 3 months. My friends will tell you that with the men I date, I am an absolute flake. I cancel dates, change my mind often, and get bored with them faster than it would take a normal person to drive a car around the block. My dating elasticity only goes so far, and then springs back almost instantaneously.
I have always blamed this on being far too busy, getting bored, not finding what I want, or that they guy is just definitely NOT my type. So the words “Single, Picky, and Indecisive” in the title really got me going. You have to understand, I really am this way in the majority of things in my life. It takes a lot to hold my attention for longer than 5 minutes with anything that I do. Unless it’s something I am really passionate about and really love being a part of. Single, picky and indecisive are words that have been used to describe me on more than one occasion.
However, this book (even halfway in) has given me a bit of insight. I have given credit to my on-again off-again dating to my not having found the right person, but now I am beginning to see things more clearly. I have taken a stint off of dating (sworn it off) for the past six months, trying to figure things out… and now I see why I was doing this.
I AM A COMMITMENT PHOBE.
Yes, I said it… and I honestly believe it now. It’s an odd feeling to see that the problem might actually have something to do with me… me and my problem. They often say that admitting you have a problem is the first step, so I’m making progress.
More to come when I finish reading! Stay tuned.
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I like this book already ;)
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